The Self-Compassion Method: Stress Relief Through Kindness
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The Self-Compassion Method: Stress Relief Through Kindness
We live in an age of relentless optimization. Our phones track our steps, our apps monitor our sleep, and our watches buzz to remind us to breathe. We are more data-rich about our bodies than any generation in history, yet we are drowning in a parallel epidemic of stress, anxiety, and burnout. We have mastered the art of external measurement but have neglected the most critical internal metric of all: the quality of our relationship with ourselves.
When stress strikes—a missed deadline, a harsh word, a personal failure—what is your instinctive response? For most, it’s a familiar, brutal chorus: “You should have known better.” “Why can’t you keep up?” “Everyone else manages just fine.” This inner critic, often mistaken for a motivator, is in fact a primary source of our suffering. It amplifies stress, paralyzes progress, and drains our emotional reserves.
But what if there was a different way? A method not of harsh critique, but of kind, clear-eyed support. A practice scientifically proven to lower cortisol, increase resilience, and rewire the brain for emotional balance. This is the promise of The Self-Compassion Method.
Self-compassion is not self-pity, self-indulgence, or letting yourself off the hook. It is the courageous practice of treating yourself with the same warmth, understanding, and support you would readily offer a struggling friend. It involves recognizing your suffering (“This is hard right now”), connecting it to our shared human experience (“I’m not alone in feeling this”), and offering yourself kindness (“What do I need to care for myself in this moment?”).
This article is your comprehensive guide to building that skill. We will dismantle the myths, explore the robust neuroscience behind it, and provide a practical, step-by-step framework to transform your relationship with stress. We’ll also examine how modern tools, like the advanced biometric tracking from Oxyzen smart rings, can provide objective feedback, showing you in real-time how a kinder internal dialogue directly calms your nervous system. This isn’t just theory; it’s a trainable skill with measurable, physiological outcomes.
The journey from relentless self-criticism to grounded self-compassion is perhaps the most impactful wellness shift you can make. It turns the volume down on the noise of stress and turns up your capacity for clarity, connection, and genuine well-being. Let’s begin.
What is Self-Compassion? Beyond the Buzzword
The term "self-compassion" has drifted into the wellness lexicon, often diluted to mean simply "being nice to yourself." In reality, it is a precise, multifaceted psychological construct, pioneered and rigorously researched by Dr. Kristin Neff, a pioneering academic in the field. According to Neff’s model, self-compassion consists of three core components that operate together like a supportive ecosystem within your own mind.
The Three Pillars of Self-Compassion:
Self-Kindness vs. Self-Judgment: This is the active component. It means actively soothing and comforting yourself when you fail or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring your pain or attacking yourself with harsh criticism. It’s the internal voice that says, “It’s okay. This is a moment of struggle. Let me be gentle with myself here.”
Common Humanity vs. Isolation: This is the connective component. Suffering and personal inadequacy are part of the shared human experience—something we all go through rather than something that happens to “me” alone. When we fail, we often feel isolated, as if we were the only person in the world to make a mistake. Self-compassion reminds us that imperfection is the universal condition. It reframes your experience from “Why is this happening to me?” to “This is what it feels like to be human right now.”
Mindfulness vs. Over-Identification: This is the balancing component. Mindfulness in this context is a non-judgmental, receptive state of mind where we observe our painful thoughts and feelings as they are, without suppressing or denying them, but also without exaggerating them or getting swept away by a narrative. It allows us to hold our experience in balanced awareness. We can acknowledge, “I am feeling tremendous anxiety about this presentation,” without becoming the thought itself: “I am a complete anxiety-ridden failure.”
Think of it this way: If a close friend calls you after a devastating job rejection, you wouldn’t likely say, “Well, you probably deserved it because you’re not that talented.” You would offer kindness (“I’m so sorry, that’s really tough”). You would connect (“So many people go through this; it doesn’t define you”). You would help them see the situation clearly without drowning in it (“This is one setback; it hurts, but it’s not the end of your story”). Self-compassion is simply the decision to become that friend to yourself.
Dispelling the Major Myths:
Myth: Self-Compassion is Weak. In truth, it is a source of immense strength. Research shows self-compassionate people demonstrate greater emotional resilience. They are better able to cope with difficulties like divorce, chronic pain, and academic failure because they don’t waste energy on self-flagellation. They can fall down, acknowledge the hurt, and get back up with clarity.
Myth: It’s Self-Indulgent. Self-compassion is not about avoiding responsibility or indulging in every desire. It’s about long-term health and well-being. A compassionate parent sets boundaries for their child because they love them. Similarly, self-compassion might mean choosing a healthy meal over junk food or leaving a toxic work situation because you care for yourself, not because you don’t.
Myth: It Kills Motivation. This is the most persistent and damaging myth. We fear that without the whip of self-criticism, we’ll become lazy. Science shows the opposite. Self-criticism undermines motivation by triggering fear of failure and shame. Self-compassion fosters intrinsic motivation—the desire to learn and grow for its own sake. It creates a safe psychological space to take risks, learn from mistakes, and persist. After all, you’re more likely to try again if you aren’t beating yourself up for the first attempt.
Understanding this framework is the essential first step. It moves us from a vague intention to be “nicer” to a structured practice we can deliberately cultivate. As we explore the profound impact this has on stress, having a tangible way to see that impact can be revolutionary. This is where cutting-edge personal technology, like the kind developed by Oxyzen, enters the picture, offering a window into how our inner dialogue shapes our body’s most fundamental rhythms.
The Science of Stress and the Physiology of Kindness
To understand why self-compassion is so potent, we must first understand the enemy it so effectively counters: chronic stress. Stress is not just a feeling; it is a full-body, biochemical cascade with profound long-term consequences.
When your brain perceives a threat—whether it’s a looming deadline (psychological) or a near-miss car accident (physical)—it triggers the hypothalamus-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis. This is your body’s central stress response system. The end result is the release of cortisol, the primary “stress hormone.” In acute, short-term situations, this is life-saving. Cortisol increases glucose in the bloodstream, enhances brain alertness, and curbs non-essential functions like digestion and reproduction—preparing you to fight or flee.
The problem in modern life is that our threats are seldom physical and rarely short-term. They are psychological, persistent, and often self-generated: an endless to-do list, financial worries, social comparison, and that relentless inner critic. This leads to a state of chronic, low-grade stress, where the HPA axis is constantly subtly activated.
The physiological toll is extensive:
Cardiovascular System: Chronically elevated cortisol increases heart rate and blood pressure, contributing to hypertension and long-term heart disease risk.
Immune System: Initially, cortisol suppresses immune function. Over time, chronic stress leads to inflammation, which is linked to a host of diseases from arthritis to depression.
Brain Function: High cortisol can damage neurons in the hippocampus, a brain region critical for memory and learning. It also shrinks the prefrontal cortex, our center for executive function, decision-making, and emotional regulation.
Metabolism: Cortisol prompts cravings for high-calorie foods and promotes fat storage, particularly around the abdomen.
Enter Self-Compassion: The Physiological Antidote
Groundbreaking research using fMRI technology shows that practicing self-compassion activates specific neural circuits. When people engage in self-compassionate thinking, there is increased activity in the insula and anterior cingulate cortex—brain regions associated with empathy, emotional regulation, and caregiving. Simultaneously, there is a deactivation of the amygdala, the brain’s fear and threat alarm center.
In simple terms, self-compassion shifts your brain from a state of threat-defense to a state of safety-and-connection. This neurological shift has direct, measurable downstream effects on the body:
Cortisol Reduction: Studies, such as those conducted at the University of Texas, have shown that individuals high in self-compassion have lower baseline levels of cortisol and a more adaptive cortisol response to stress. They may still have an initial spike, but their system recovers and returns to baseline faster—a marker of resilience.
Heart Rate Variability (HRV): This is a key metric of nervous system health. High HRV indicates a flexible, resilient autonomic nervous system that can smoothly transition between stress (sympathetic) and calm (parasympathetic) states. Self-compassion practices, particularly those involving mindful breathing and kind self-talk, have been shown to increase HRV, signaling a move into a calm, restorative state.
Inflammation Reduction: By calming the HPA axis and the sympathetic nervous system, self-compassion reduces the production of pro-inflammatory cytokines. Lower inflammation is linked not only to better physical health but also to reduced risk of depression and anxiety.
This is the true power of the method: it is a psychological intervention with a direct biological passport. Your kind thoughts literally change your body’s chemistry. For the modern wellness enthusiast, this bridge between mind and body is no longer abstract. With a device like an Oxyzen ring, which tracks HRV, sleep disturbances, and stress biomarkers continuously, you can begin to see a direct correlation. You can observe how a session of self-compassionate meditation might lead to a calmer afternoon HRV reading, or how noticing and soothing self-critical thoughts before bed might contribute to more restorative deep sleep. To see real-world examples of how individuals use such data to transform their stress, you can explore Oxyzen testimonials. The data provides objective proof that your inner work is creating outer, physiological change.
The Inner Critic: Your Brain's Misfired Alarm System
If self-compassion is the medicine, then the inner critic is the pathogen. But to effectively treat it, we must understand its origins. This harsh, punitive voice isn’t a personal flaw or a mark of failure. In evolutionary terms, it’s a misfired—but originally well-intentioned—safety mechanism.
Our ancestors survived by belonging to a tribe. Exclusion meant almost certain death. Therefore, the brain evolved a powerful threat-detection system focused on social standing: “Am I good enough? Will I be accepted? Could I be cast out?” The inner critic likely developed as a preemptive strike mechanism. By criticizing ourselves before others could, we could theoretically correct our behavior to ensure belonging. “Don’t say that, it’s stupid,” is the brain’s clunky attempt to protect you from social ridicule.
In the modern world, this system is catastrophically overactive. The “tribe” is now our social media followers, our professional network, our perceived societal benchmarks. The critic now berates us for a minor typo in an email as if it were a life-threatening tribal breach. It has become a source of chronic internal threat, perpetually activating the stress response we just detailed.
Common Masks of the Inner Critic:
The critic is cunning and adapts to different situations. You might recognize it as:
The Perfectionist: “Nothing you do is ever good enough. You must be flawless to be safe/loved/successful.”
The Taskmaster: “You don’t deserve rest. Keep pushing. Your value is in your productivity.”
The Comparer: “Look at everyone else’s highlight reel. You are fundamentally behind and lacking.”
The Catastrophizer: “This mistake will ruin everything. It’s all downhill from here.”
The Underminer: “Who do you think you are to try that? You’re not qualified/smart/charismatic enough.”
The High Cost of Self-Criticism
Listening to this voice comes at a steep price:
Decision Paralysis: Fear of making the “wrong” choice (and being criticized for it) leads to chronic hesitation.
Creative & Professional Stagnation: Why take a risk or propose a new idea if the internal backlash for potential failure is so severe?
Anxiety and Depression: Chronic self-attack is a direct pathway to these mental health challenges, reinforcing feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness.
Relational Strain: Often, we project our inner critic outward, becoming judgmental or impatient with others. Or, we may attract critical partners, subconsciously replicating our internal dynamic.
Disidentifying from the Voice
The first step in disarming the critic is to realize: You are not the voice. You are the one who hears it. This is a subtle but profound shift from being the thought to observing the thought. This is where mindfulness, the third pillar of self-compassion, is essential.
Practice: Next time the critic pipes up, pause. Instead of getting into an argument with it (“No, I’m not stupid!”), simply notice it with curiosity. You might mentally label it: “Ah, there’s the Perfectionist critic.” Or, “That’s the old ‘not good enough’ story.” This creates psychological distance. You see the critic as a passing mental event, like a cloud in the sky of your awareness, rather than the truth of who you are. This space is where your power lies—in that gap between stimulus (the critical thought) and your response. From this place of observation, you can consciously choose a different, more compassionate response. For more techniques on navigating internal dialogues and building emotional awareness, our blog offers a wealth of related resources.
The Foundational Practice: Mindful Awareness
Before we can effectively offer ourselves kindness, we must first know what we are feeling. You cannot soothe a wound you refuse to acknowledge. This is why Mindful Awareness is the non-negotiable bedrock of the Self-Compassion Method. It is the skill of turning toward your experience with open, accepting curiosity, even—especially—when that experience is painful.
Mindfulness, in the context of self-compassion, is not about achieving a blank mind or a state of blissful calm. It is about clear seeing. It is the courageous act of saying, “This is what is present for me right now,” without immediately trying to fix it, change it, or make it go away.
Why We Avoid Our Feelings (And Why It Backfires)
Our default mode when confronted with emotional pain—shame, anxiety, sadness—is often aversion. We employ a variety of strategies to avoid the discomfort:
Numbing: Through overwork, excessive screen time, substance use, or compulsive eating.
Distraction: Keeping ourselves perpetually busy so we never have to stop and feel.
Rumination: Getting stuck in the story about the feeling (“Why do I always feel this way? What’s wrong with me?”) instead of feeling the actual sensation in the body.
Suppression: Consciously pushing the feeling down with a mental command: “Don’t cry.” “Just get over it.”
These strategies are exhausting and ultimately futile. As psychologist Carl Jung famously said, “What you resist, persists.” Avoided emotions don’t disappear; they go underground, gaining power and often manifesting as physical tension, illness, or explosive outbursts later. Mindfulness offers a third way: neither suppression nor indulgence, but simple, compassionate acknowledgment.
A Simple Practice: The Name It to Tame It Technique
Neuroscience research from Dr. Dan Siegel shows that the simple act of naming an emotion can reduce activity in the amygdala. This is the basis of “Name it to Tame it.”
Pause: When you notice a surge of stress or discomfort, stop for just 30 seconds. If possible, close your eyes.
Scan: Bring your attention into your body. Where do you feel this emotion most strongly? A knot in the stomach? Tightness in the chest? A clenched jaw?
Name: Silently, and with a gentle tone, label the emotion. “This is anxiety.” “Here is frustration.” “This is a feeling of overwhelm.”
Allow: Breathe into that sensation. Imagine creating a little space around it with your breath. You don’t have to like it or approve of it. Just say, “It’s here. I can feel this.”
This practice does not magically dissolve the feeling, but it changes your relationship to it. You are no longer fused with the anxiety; you are a mindful observer feeling anxiety. This small shift is the gateway to self-compassion, because now you know exactly what needs your care. This level of somatic awareness is a skill that deepens over time. Many users of biometric wearables find that the objective data from their device, like a sudden dip in HRV or a spike in skin temperature, serves as an external cue to pause and check in, building this mindful habit faster. To understand how technology is designed to support this very journey of awareness, you can learn more about the Oxyzen philosophy.
The Core Skill: Activating Self-Kindness
With mindful awareness as our foundation, we can now actively apply the balm. Self-kindness is the deliberate practice of responding to your own suffering with warmth, comfort, and understanding. It moves from passive observation (“I am feeling pain”) to active care (“Let me offer care to this pain”).
For many, this is the most challenging component. The pathways for criticizing ourselves are well-worn superhighways; the paths for kindness are often overgrown footpaths. We must consciously build them.
Practical Tools for Cultivating Self-Kindness:
The Self-Compassion Break: Developed by Dr. Kristin Neff, this is a portable, three-step practice you can use in moments of distress.
Step 1: Mindfulness: Acknowledge the pain. “This is a moment of suffering.” or “This is really hard right now.”
Step 2: Common Humanity: Connect. “Suffering is a part of life. I’m not alone in this.” or “Others feel this way too.”
Step 3: Self-Kindness: Offer kindness. Place a hand over your heart or another soothing place on your body. Say to yourself, “May I be kind to myself,” or “May I give myself the compassion I need,” or use a more personal phrase like, “It’s okay, sweetheart. You’re doing your best.”
Soothing Touch: Our skin is a powerful organ of connection. Physical gestures activate the caregiving system and release oxytocin (the “bonding” or “love” hormone), which counteracts cortisol. When you notice stress, try:
Placing both hands over your heart, feeling their warmth.
Gently holding your own face.
Giving yourself a hug, crossing your arms and giving a gentle squeeze.
Cupping your own hands in your lap.
The touch is not the solution; it is a physiological anchor for the intention of kindness.
Rewrite the Internal Narrative: Catch a critical thought and consciously rephrase it with a kinder, more accurate, and more supportive tone.
Critic: “You completely failed that presentation. You’re terrible at this.”
Kindness: “That presentation didn’t go as I’d hoped, and that’s disappointing. Public speaking is challenging for a lot of people. What’s one thing I can learn from this for next time?”
Critic: “You have no willpower. You ate the whole thing.”
Kindness: “I was stressed and reached for food for comfort. That’s a normal human response. Let me check in: what was I really needing in that moment? How can I care for that need directly?”
Overcoming the Awkwardness:
It is perfectly normal to feel silly, awkward, or even resistant when you first try these practices. The inner critic may immediately pipe up: “This is self-indulgent nonsense.” That’s okay. Acknowledge that resistance with mindfulness (“I’m feeling resistant”) and then proceed gently anyway. Start small. You are literally building new neural networks. Consistency, not perfection, is the goal. As you practice, you might start to notice physical shifts—a softening in the shoulders, a deeper breath. This is the kindness taking root.
Connecting Through Common Humanity
When we fail or suffer, our perception shrinks. We feel utterly alone, as if our experience is a unique and isolating flaw. The pillar of Common Humanity is the radical act of widening that lens, of reconnecting our personal pain to the vast tapestry of shared human experience.
This is not about minimizing your pain (“Others have it worse, so stop complaining”). That is just another form of invalidation. Instead, it’s about contextualizing it. It’s the profound realization that the very things that make you feel most isolated—your fears of inadequacy, your grief, your mistakes—are, in fact, universal. They are the price of admission to a human life.
The Antidote to Shame
Shame, researcher Brené Brown defines, is the intensely painful feeling that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. It thrives in secrecy and isolation. The moment we whisper, “Me too,” shame loses its power. Common humanity is the direct, researched antidote to shame. It transforms “I am a mess” (shame) into “I am a human being having a messy human experience” (self-compassion).
How to Practice Finding Common Humanity:
In Moments of Struggle: When you’re stuck in self-judgment, ask yourself: “Is it possible that other people have felt this way?” The answer is always yes. Think of a friend you love and respect. Have they ever failed? Felt insecure? Made a mistake? Of course. Your humanity is no different.
Use Mantras of Connection: Develop phrases that remind you of this truth. When pain arises, silently say:
“This is part of being human.”
“I’m not alone in this.”
“Everyone struggles sometimes. This is my moment of struggle.”
Look for Shared Stories: Read memoirs, listen to interviews, or talk openly with trusted friends. You will be astounded by how hearing others’ vulnerabilities and hardships not only fosters empathy for them but also gives you permission to be gentle with your own. Our collective stories remind us that perfection is a myth.
This component is what elevates self-compassion from self-care to a form of spiritual and psychological wisdom. It dissolves the illusion of separation. Your personal stress is not just your own; it is a reflection of the challenges inherent in the human condition. This understanding is core to the vision behind many wellness-focused missions, including the belief at Oxyzen that true well-being is about reconnecting with our own rhythms and, by extension, our shared human experience. Caring for yourself with this understanding becomes an act of solidarity, not selfishness.
The Self-Compassion Journal: A Transformative Daily Habit
Knowledge must be translated into consistent action to rewire deep-seated patterns. While in-the-moment practices like the Self-Compassion Break are vital, a dedicated daily journaling practice provides a structured space for deeper reflection and integration. It’s a gym for your self-compassion muscle.
Journaling moves the process from your head to the page, making abstract concepts concrete. It allows you to witness your own patterns, celebrate small shifts, and consciously reframe experiences with kindness. Research shows that expressive writing of this nature can improve immune function, reduce distress, and enhance emotional well-being.
A Simple, Powerful Journaling Framework:
Spend 10-15 minutes daily, perhaps in the evening, with the following three prompts. Write freely, without editing or judging your words.
Today’s Difficulty (Mindfulness): “What was a moment today that was stressful, painful, or where I felt I fell short?” Describe it factually, without dramatic storytelling.
Example: “I snapped impatiently at my partner when they asked me a simple question about my day.”
Connecting to Others (Common Humanity): “How is my experience part of the larger human experience? Can I see that others might feel this way?”
Example: “Everyone gets irritable when they’re overwhelmed and tired. I’m sure my partner has felt this way before, and so have millions of people today. It doesn’t make me a bad person; it makes me a stressed human.”
Words of Kindness (Self-Kindness): “What would I say to a dear friend who told me they had this experience? What kind, supportive words can I offer myself right now?”
Example: “Sweetheart, you’ve been under a lot of pressure at work and you’re running on empty. It’s understandable that your patience was thin. It’s okay. Maybe you can apologize to your partner and also get to bed a little earlier tonight to care for your tired self.”
Going Deeper: Uncovering Core Wounds
Over time, your journal will reveal recurring themes—situations that trigger disproportionate stress or self-criticism. These often point to deeper “core wounds” or beliefs, such as “I am not safe unless I am perfect,” or “My needs are a burden.” When you identify one:
Acknowledge it with mindfulness: “Ah, the ‘I must be perfect’ story is here.”
Apply common humanity: “This belief was likely formed to protect me when I was younger. So many people carry similar wounds from their past.”
Offer direct kindness to the wound: Speak or write to that younger part of yourself. “It’s okay. You don’t have to be perfect to be safe or loved. I am here with you now.”
This daily practice builds a new, compassionate inner narrative brick by brick. For those who love to see progress mapped, combining this subjective journaling with objective data from a wellness tracker can be profoundly validating. You might note in your journal a week of consistent self-kindness practice and then see the corresponding trend of improved sleep scores or higher average HRV in your app. This creates a powerful feedback loop of positive reinforcement. For individuals curious about starting this integrative journey, our FAQ page addresses many common questions on combining mindful practice with technology.
Compassion for the Body: Ending the War with Physiology
For many, the most acute battlefield for self-criticism is the body. We criticize its appearance, its appetites, its need for rest, and its inevitable signs of aging. We wage a silent war against our own physiology, treating it as an enemy to be controlled rather than a wise partner to be cared for. True self-compassion must extend to the physical vessel that carries us through life.
This war is a profound source of stress. Body shame and constant negative self-talk keep the body in a state of threat, exacerbating inflammation, disrupting digestion, and harming metabolic health. Compassion for the body is about shifting from objectification (“This body must look a certain way”) to subjectification (“This is the living, feeling body that allows me to experience life”).
Practices for Embodied Self-Compassion:
Body Scan with Kindness: Instead of a standard body scan that just notes sensations, infuse it with gratitude and kindness. Lie down and slowly bring attention to each body part. As you focus, thank that part for its service. “Thank you, feet, for carrying me all day.” “Thank you, stomach, for digesting my food and giving me energy.” If you feel pain or discomfort in an area, send breath and kind attention there: “I feel your tension. I’m here with you.”
Reframe “Symptoms” as Communication: Fatigue, pain, cravings, and illness are often met with frustration: “Why is my body betraying me?” Try shifting the perspective: “What is my body trying to tell me?” Fatigue might be saying, “We need more rest.” A craving might signal, “We are seeking comfort from stress.” A headache might whisper, “We are holding too much tension.” Listen with curiosity, not judgment, and then respond with care.
Move with Pleasure, Not Punishment: Shift your relationship with exercise from a punitive chore (“I have to burn off that cake”) to a celebration of what your body can do (“I get to move and feel strong/alive/joyful”). Choose movement that feels genuinely good, whether it’s a walk in nature, dancing in your living room, or gentle stretching. After moving, thank your body for its capability.
Nourish from a Place of Care: Approach eating with the question, “How can I nourish and care for this body?” rather than “What are the rules I must follow?” This fosters intuitive eating—listening to hunger and fullness cues, and choosing foods that make you feel energized and well, without morality attached to them (“good” vs. “bad” food).
This compassionate approach to the body aligns perfectly with the ethos of holistic wellness technology. A device like a smart ring isn’t meant to be a harsh critic, judging your sleep or activity scores. At its best, as intended by teams focused on holistic well-being like those at Oxyzen, it’s a compassionate informant. It provides neutral data—like a low resting heart rate or a good night’s sleep score—as feedback, not verdicts. The data becomes a tool for listening more closely to your body’s needs, allowing you to respond with more precise and effective kindness, transforming the relationship from adversarial to collaborative.
Navigating Setbacks and Difficult Emotions with Compassion
Progress in self-compassion is not linear. There will be days when the inner critic roars back to life, when you react harshly to yourself or others, or when difficult emotions like anger, grief, or jealousy feel overwhelming. This is not failure; it is part of the practice. In fact, these moments are the most fertile ground for deepening self-compassion.
The goal is not to never feel negative emotions. The goal is to change your relationship with them—to learn how to be with them compassionately until they pass, as all emotions do.
A Framework for Difficult Emotions: RAIN
A beloved mindfulness practice adapted by therapist Michele McDonald, RAIN is perfect for handling intense emotional experiences.
R – Recognize: Pause and consciously recognize what is happening inside you. “I am feeling a surge of jealousy.” “There is a deep sadness here.”
A – Allow: Let the feeling be there, without trying to fix it, change it, or judge it. This is a radical act of acceptance. “I allow this jealousy to be present.” “It’s okay that I feel this sadness.”
I – Investigate with Kindness: Bring gentle curiosity to the emotion. Where do you feel it in your body? What does it feel like—hot, tight, heavy? Is there an associated thought or memory? Do this not as a detective, but as a caring friend asking, “Where does it hurt?”
N – Nurture (or Non-Identification): Offer care to the part of you that is hurting. Place a hand on your heart. Offer a kind phrase: “May this part of me feel held.” “It’s okay, I’m here with you.” The “Non-Identification” piece reminds you that this emotion is a temporary experience, not your identity. You feel angry; you are not an angry person.
Compassion for “Compassion Failure”
What happens when you lose your temper, say something cruel, or fall back into old, critical patterns? This is a critical test.
The First Arrow vs. The Second Arrow: In Buddhist psychology, the first arrow is the initial pain (the mistake, the conflict). The second arrow is the self-judgment we shoot ourselves with afterward (“I’m a horrible person for doing that!”). Self-compassion is about softening the impact of the second arrow.
Practice: After a setback, use your mindfulness to acknowledge the pain of the first arrow (“Ouch, I really messed up. I hurt someone.”). Then, immediately apply self-compassion to stop the second arrow: “This is a moment of great suffering. Everyone acts in ways they regret sometimes. May I find a way to forgive myself, learn from this, and make amends where possible.”
This ability to hold your own imperfections with kindness is the cornerstone of resilience. It prevents a single setback from spiraling into a narrative of total failure. It allows you to repair relationships—with yourself and others—from a place of humble humanity rather than defensive shame. Exploring stories of resilience and growth can be incredibly supportive; reading about others’ journeys through challenges, such as those shared in Oxyzen testimonials, can reinforce this sense of shared humanity and possibility.
Integrating Self-Compassion into Work and Productivity
The workplace is often the arena where our self-critical scripts are loudest and most rewarded (under the guise of “high standards” or “ambition”). We fear that self-compassion will make us soft, uncompetitive, or unproductive. Yet, as the science shows, the opposite is true. Integrating self-compassion into your professional life is a strategic advantage for sustainable performance and innovation.
How Self-Compassion Fuels Professional Excellence:
Enhances Resilience to Failure: In innovative fields, failure is data. A self-compassionate response to a failed project (“This didn’t work, what can we learn?”) allows for rapid iteration. A self-critical response (“I’m a failure”) leads to fear, avoidance, and hiding mistakes.
Reduces Burnout: Burnout is chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed. Self-compassion is a direct management tool. It allows you to recognize signs of overload early (“I’m feeling depleted”) and respond with self-care (setting boundaries, taking breaks) without guilt.
Improves Leadership and Collaboration: Leaders who are self-compassionate model psychological safety. They admit mistakes, which gives their team permission to do the same. They are less defensive and more open to feedback. This creates a culture of learning and trust.
Boosts Decision-Making: Stress and self-doubt cloud the prefrontal cortex. Self-compassion calms the threat system, allowing for clearer, more rational, and less emotionally reactive decisions.
Practical Applications for the Workday:
Compassionate Pre-Game: Before a big meeting or presentation, instead of pumping yourself up with pressure (“Don’t screw this up!”), try a kinder approach. Place a hand on your heart and say, “Whatever happens, I am worthy of respect. I am prepared and will do my best.”
The Compassionate Pivot After a Mistake: When you make an error, follow this sequence:
Acknowledge (Mindfulness): “I sent the email to the wrong client. That was a mistake.”
Soothe (Self-Kindness): Take a breath. “Okay, this is stressful. It’s going to be okay.”
Problem-Solve (Common Humanity): “People make communication errors all the time. What’s the most professional and corrective action I can take right now?” Then act.
Set Boundaries with Kindness: Saying “no” or delegating can trigger guilt. Frame it as an act of compassion for your long-term effectiveness: “To deliver my best work on the core project, I need to pass this on. I am being responsible with my energy.”
End-of-Day Reflection: Instead of ruminating on what you didn’t finish, practice a “Three Good Things” work variation. Name three things you accomplished or contributed to, however small. Thank yourself for your effort.
By bringing self-compassion to work, you replace a cycle of chronic stress and depletion with a cycle of sustainable effort, learning, and renewal. This aligns with a modern understanding of peak performance, which is increasingly explored in resources dedicated to holistic well-being and productivity, like those found on our blog.
The Ripple Effect: How Self-Compassion Improves Your Relationships
The journey of self-compassion is often viewed as an inward one, but its most beautiful impact may be outward. When you are no longer at war with yourself, you have more emotional resources, patience, and genuine presence to offer others. You stop seeing relationships as arenas to prove your worth and start experiencing them as connections between two inherently flawed, inherently worthy human beings.
The Drain of Self-Criticism on Relationships:
Projection: Unhealed self-criticism often leads to criticizing others. We project our own harsh standards onto partners, children, and friends.
Defensiveness: If you are internally fragile from self-attack, any external feedback feels like a life-threatening assault, leading to angry defensiveness or withdrawn silence.
Neediness/Codependency: If you don’t feel worthy within yourself, you may look to others to constantly validate you, placing an unsustainable burden on relationships.
Lack of Boundaries: Unable to say no to others for fear of rejection, you become resentful and depleted.
How Self-Compassion Transforms Connections:
Increases Empathy and Reduces Judgment: When you understand your own struggles with kindness, you naturally extend that understanding to others. You’re quicker to assume good intentions and offer the benefit of the doubt. You see their behavior as coming from their own pain, not a personal attack.
Fosters Secure Attachment: Self-compassion helps you meet your own core emotional needs for safety and comfort. This makes you less reliant on a partner to “complete” you. You can engage in relationships from a place of wholeness and interdependence, not desperate need.
Improves Communication: From a place of inner calm, you can listen more deeply. When conflict arises, you can express your feelings using “I” statements without blame, because your worth isn’t on the line. You can also hear your partner’s perspective without collapsing into shame.
Allows for Healthy Boundaries: With a foundation of self-care, you can set limits with love and clarity. “I love you, and I cannot lend you money.” “I need some quiet time to recharge so I can be fully present with you later.”
Practicing Compassion in Conflict:
Next time you have a disagreement, try this:
Self-Compassion First: Feel the rise of anger or hurt. Silently offer yourself a moment of kindness: “This is painful. It’s okay to feel upset.”
Common Humanity: Remember, “Conflict is a normal part of relationships. We are two people with different perspectives and needs.”
Respond, Don’t React: From this calmer place, choose your words. “When X happened, I felt Y. I need Z.” This is far more effective than an accusatory, “You always…”
By filling your own cup with compassion, you not only stop draining the cups of others, but you also have an abundance to share. This creates a positive feedback loop of healthier, more resilient, and more satisfying relationships in every domain of your life. This vision of interconnected well-being is at the heart of a holistic approach to health, a principle that guides the development of tools and communities focused on true wellness, such as the team behind Oxyzen.
Cultivating a Self-Compassionate Mindset: The Long Game
Building self-compassion is not a destination; it is the gradual cultivation of a new inner climate. It’s moving from a mindset of conditional self-worth—where your value depends on success, appearance, or approval—to one of inherent self-worth—where your value is a given, simply because you exist. This shift doesn’t happen overnight. It requires patience, persistence, and a commitment to playing the long game.
This section focuses on the meta-skills: the attitudes and perspectives that support your daily practice and help you stay the course when progress feels invisible.
The Pillars of a Self-Compassionate Mindset:
Progress Over Perfection: Apply self-compassion to the practice of self-compassion itself. You will forget. You will have days where you are overwhelmingly critical. This is not failure; it’s data. Each moment of awareness—even after a critical spiral—is a victory. Celebrate the noticing, not just the "perfect" compassionate response. The goal is not to never hear the critic, but to change your relationship to its voice.
Curiosity Over Condemnation: Replace the judgmental “Why am I like this?” with the curious “I wonder why I’m reacting this way?” Curiosity is a neutral, open state that invites exploration without shame. It transforms inner turmoil into a fascinating landscape of personal insight. This mindset is powerfully supported by biofeedback; seeing a stress spike on your Oxyzen dashboard, for example, can prompt curious inquiry (“What was happening for me at 2:45 PM?”) rather than self-judgment (“My stress is out of control again”).
"And" Over "But": Language shapes reality. We often say, “I’m angry, but I should be more understanding.” This negates the first feeling. Try using “and”: “I’m feeling really angry about this, and I can also see their perspective.” This allows for the complexity of human emotion. You can be disappointed in your behavior and still be worthy of kindness. You can be struggling and be strong.
Self-Compassion as a Default, Not a Last Resort: Often, we only turn to self-kindness when we’re at rock bottom. Instead, practice making it your baseline operating system. Start your day with a kind intention: “May I meet today’s challenges with grace for myself.” Use minor irritations—spilling coffee, hitting traffic—as micro-practices. This builds muscle memory, so when the major crisis hits, the compassionate pathway is already well-lit.
Navigating Resistance and the "Worthy" Block:
A common, deep-seated block is the belief: “I don’t deserve this kindness.” This belief is the critic’s final fortress. To approach it:
Acknowledge it with compassion: “There’s a part of me that feels deeply unworthy of care. That part is really suffering.”
Use the “friend” test: Would you tell your best friend they don’t deserve comfort when they’re in pain? If the answer is no, you are holding a double standard.
Start with the body: The mind might argue with worthiness, but the body responds to kindness directly. A warm hand on the heart, a gentle stretch, a warm bath—these are acts of care that bypass the intellectual argument and communicate worth directly to the nervous system.
Developing this mindset is the work of a lifetime, but it is work that fundamentally changes the texture of your life. It’s about moving from a life spent trying to earn love and worth to one lived from the unshakable knowing that you are already enough. For more on building sustainable wellness habits that last, our blog offers continuous exploration and support.
Self-Compassion and the Science of Habits: Rewiring Your Brain
Understanding how self-compassion creates change requires a look at neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. Every thought, feeling, and behavior you repeat strengthens a specific neural pathway. Your inner critic is a superhighway because you’ve traveled that road countless times. Self-compassion begins as a faint deer trail. The practice is the conscious work of walking the new path until it becomes the default route.
The Habit Loop and Self-Criticism:
Every habit, including mental ones, follows a loop:
Cue: A trigger (e.g., making a mistake, seeing a critical email).
Routine: The automatic response (e.g., spiraling into self-criticism: “I’m an idiot.”).
Reward: The (often twisted) payoff (e.g., a sense of control—“If I punish myself, I’ll do better next time”—or a fleeting sense of connection to past figures who were critical).
To change a habit, you must keep the same Cue and Reward, but insert a new Routine.
Building the Self-Compassion Habit Loop:
Cue: The same trigger—making a mistake.
New Routine: The Self-Compassion Break (Mindfulness: “This hurts.” Common Humanity: “Others make mistakes.” Self-Kindness: “May I be gentle with myself.”).
Reward: A more peaceful, resilient state (lowered physiological stress, a sense of connection, emotional relief). This reward is actually more satisfying and sustainable than the shame-based reward of self-criticism.
The Role of Repetition and "Tiny Habits":
Stanford behavior expert BJ Fogg emphasizes starting with “Tiny Habits” that are easy to accomplish. For self-compassion, this could be:
After brushing your teeth, place a hand on your heart and say, “May I be kind to myself today.”
Every time you sit down at your desk, take one mindful breath.
When you hear your phone ping with a notification, use it as a cue to check in: “How am I feeling right now?”
These tiny actions build the identity: “I am someone who practices self-compassion.” They create repetition without overwhelm.
Leveraging Technology for Habit Formation:
This is where a smart wellness device becomes a powerful habit ally. It provides objective, external cues and reinforcement.
Cue from Data: A notification of “High Stress” or a visible dip in your HRV graph can serve as a non-judgmental cue to pause and practice.
Reinforcement from Data: After a few minutes of compassionate breathing or a self-compassion break, you can literally watch your real-time HRV rise or your stress score decrease. This provides immediate, positive feedback that the new routine works, powerfully reinforcing the habit loop. It turns an abstract practice into a concrete, measurable skill. Seeing this cause-and-effect can be a profound motivator, as shared by many users in their personal testimonials.
By understanding the habit science behind self-compassion, you move from hoping for change to engineering it. You become the architect of your own inner landscape, deliberately strengthening the pathways of kindness, one repetition at a time.
Advanced Practices: Loving-Kindness (Metta) and Compassion Meditations
Once the foundational practices of mindful awareness and self-kindness feel more accessible, you can deepen your practice with formal meditations specifically designed to cultivate boundless kindness and compassion. The most well-known of these is Loving-Kindness (Metta) meditation, an ancient Buddhist practice that systematically directs well-wishes toward yourself and others.
These are not passive relaxations; they are active workouts for your heart and mind, proven to increase gray matter in brain regions associated with empathy and emotional regulation.
The Traditional Metta Progression:
The practice traditionally moves through a sequence of recipients, starting with yourself. This order is crucial—you cannot offer from an empty cup.
Yourself: You begin by generating feelings of kindness and care for yourself, using silent phrases like:
“May I be safe and protected.”
“May I be healthy and strong.”
“May I be happy and peaceful.”
“May I live with ease.”
A Benefactor: Someone for whom you feel natural gratitude and love (a mentor, a friend, a family member). Direct the same phrases to them: “May you be safe…”
A Neutral Person: Someone you see regularly but have no strong feelings about (a barista, a colleague). This stretches your capacity for impartial kindness.
A Difficult Person: Someone with whom you have conflict or tension. Important: This is not about condoning harmful behavior. It is about recognizing their shared humanity and wishing for their freedom from the suffering that likely drives their actions. This is advanced practice; be gentle with yourself if it feels challenging.
All Beings: Finally, radiate these wishes out to all living beings in your city, country, and the world.
A Simplified Daily Metta Practice:
If the full progression feels long, a condensed version is immensely powerful. Spend 5 minutes focusing only on two points:
2.5 minutes for yourself: Repeat your chosen phrases, feeling the intention behind them.
2.5 minutes for “all beings”: Imagine your kindness radiating out like sunlight, touching friends, strangers, and even those you find difficult, with the wish: “May all beings be happy and free from suffering.”
Compassion (Karuna) Meditation:
While Metta focuses on general well-wishing (“May you be happy”), Compassion meditation specifically focuses on the alleviation of suffering.
You might bring to mind someone who is struggling and silently offer: “May you be free from this suffering. May you find peace. May you have the strength to bear this.”
You can also direct this toward your own suffering: Placing a hand where you feel pain and whispering, “May this pain be held in kindness. May I be free from this suffering.”
Integrating These Practices:
You don’t need to sit for an hour. Weave phrases into your day. While waiting in line, silently offer Metta to the people around you. When you hear an ambulance siren, offer a moment of compassion to those involved. This transforms idle moments into training grounds for boundless kindness.
These advanced practices expand the container of your heart. They move self-compassion from a personal stress-relief tool into a philosophical stance toward life itself—a commitment to meeting pain, both yours and the world’s, with a courageous, open heart. This journey of expansion often starts with a simple commitment to self-awareness, a value that guides holistic wellness approaches from the ground up, including the mission and vision of companies like Oxyzen.
Self-Compassion for Specific Life Challenges
The principles of self-compassion are universal, but applying them to specific, acute life challenges requires tailored approaches. Here’s how to bring the method to some of life’s most common, yet difficult, arenas.
Grief and Loss
Grief can feel like a terrifying ocean of pain. The instinct may be to numb it or criticize yourself for how you’re grieving (“I should be over this by now”).
Practice: Give yourself permission to grieve without a timeline. Use self-compassion as a life raft. In moments of overwhelming sorrow, place both hands on your heart and breathe. Use a phrase like, “This is the pain of love. It’s okay to feel this. I am not alone in this human experience of loss.” Offer yourself the simplest comforts—a warm blanket, a cup of tea, rest—as acts of kindness to your grieving self.
Chronic Illness or Pain
When your body is the source of ongoing suffering, anger and frustration toward it are natural. This adversarial relationship adds mental suffering to physical pain.
Practice: Shift from “Why is my body doing this to me?” to “How can I care for myself with this pain?” Practice speaking to the affected part with kindness, not fury. “I know you’re hurting. I’m here with you.” Focus on what your body can still do, however small. Adjust expectations daily with compassion. Your worth is not contingent on a “good” health day.
Parenting
Parenting is a relentless gauntlet of self-doubt. The critic shouts, “You’re doing it all wrong!”
Practice: Recognize that every parent struggles. When you lose your patience, instead of spiraling into shame, use the RAIN practice. Then, model repair: “Mommy got frustrated and yelled. That was my feeling to manage, not yours. I’m sorry. I love you.” This teaches your child emotional regulation and self-compassion by example. Offer yourself the same nurturing you give your child.
Career Transition or Job Loss
Identity is often tied to work. Losing a job or changing paths can trigger an existential crisis and intense self-criticism.
Practice: Separate your worth from your role. Use mindfulness: “This is a period of fear and uncertainty.” Use common humanity: “Millions of people are navigating career changes right now.” Use self-kindness: “This is a time to be extra gentle with myself. What is one small, nourishing step I can take today?” Frame it as a crossroads, not a catastrophe.
Social Anxiety and Comparison
The trap of comparing your internal reality to others’ external highlights is a major source of modern suffering.
Practice: When you feel the “compare and despair” spiral, ground yourself in your body. Feel your feet on the floor. Then, offer kindness to the part of you that feels insecure: “It’s okay to want connection and to feel scared. Everyone feels this way sometimes.” Silently offer Metta to both yourself and the person you’re comparing yourself to. Remember: common humanity means their curated feed is not their full reality, either.
In each challenge, the framework remains: Acknowledge the pain with mindfulness, connect it to shared humanity, and respond with active self-kindness. This doesn’t remove the challenge, but it removes the layer of unnecessary, self-inflicted suffering, allowing you to meet the difficulty with greater resilience and clarity. For more targeted resources on navigating life’s stressors with a balanced approach, you can always search our blog for deeper dives.
Creating a Personal Self-Compassion Ritual
While spontaneous practices are vital, a dedicated personal ritual creates a sacred, non-negotiable space for your self-compassion practice to deepen. This ritual is a loving commitment to your own well-being, a daily or weekly touchpoint that nourishes you at a core level. It doesn’t need to be long or elaborate; it needs to be meaningful and consistent.
Elements of a Powerful Self-Compassion Ritual:
Set the Container: Choose a time and place where you won’t be interrupted. Even 10 minutes in the morning before the day begins or in the evening before bed is transformative. You might light a candle, sit in a special chair, or wrap yourself in a cozy shawl to signal to your brain: “This is time for care.”
Anchor in the Body (1-2 mins): Begin by arriving. Take three deep, slow breaths. Feel the sensations of your body in contact with the chair or floor. Scan for areas of tension and, on an exhale, imagine softening them. This transitions you from doing mode to being mode.
Heart-Centered Practice (5-7 mins): This is the core. Choose one practice to focus on:
Self-Compassion Break: Apply it to something currently lingering from your day or week.
Loving-Kindness (Metta): Spend the time directing phrases to yourself and a loved one.
Compassionate Body Scan: Slowly move attention through the body with gratitude and kindness.
Journaling: Use the three-prompt framework from earlier.
Closing with Intention (1 min): Gently close your practice by setting an intention to carry this feeling of kindness forward. You might place your hands over your heart and say, “Whatever today brings, may I meet it with a compassionate heart.” Then, slowly open your eyes.
Weekly or Monthly Deep-Dive Ritual:
Once a week or month, consider a longer ritual (30-60 minutes). This could include:
Reviewing Your Journal: Look for patterns and celebrate insights.
Engaging with Inspirational Material: Reading a poem, a passage from a book on compassion, or listening to a guided meditation.
Data Reflection: If you use a wellness tracker, review your weekly data not as a performance report, but with curiosity and compassion. “Look, my sleep was restless on the nights my stress scores were high. My body was trying to tell me something. How can I support myself better next week?” This turns data analysis into an act of self-inquiry and care. For those curious about how to interpret such data within a compassionate framework, our FAQ provides helpful guidance.
Writing a Compassionate Letter to Yourself: As if you were your own most wise, loving friend.
Your ritual is a living practice. Let it evolve with your needs. The key is the consistent message it sends to your deepest self: You matter. Your inner world is worthy of time, attention, and tenderness.
The Future of Compassionate Wellness: Bridging Inner and Outer Science
As we stand at the intersection of ancient wisdom and modern technology, the future of personal wellness is unmistakably integrative. It is a future where the subjective, qualitative art of self-compassion meets the objective, quantitative science of biometrics. This synergy doesn’t reduce the human experience to data points; it uses data to deepen our understanding and embodiment of that experience.
The Biofeedback Loop of Compassion:
Imagine a continuous, compassionate feedback loop:
Inner Cue: You feel the familiar knot of anxiety in your stomach before a meeting.
Practice: You pause and take a Self-Compassion Break.
Outer Measurement: Your smart ring detects the subsequent physiological shift—a calming of heart rate, an increase in HRV.
Reinforcement & Insight: You see the correlation later, reinforcing the habit. Over time, you might also notice that certain types of self-kindness phrases produce a stronger physiological calm than others, allowing you to personalize your practice with unprecedented precision.
This loop transforms self-awareness from a vague concept into a tangible skill. It provides external validation for internal work, which can be crucial for motivation, especially for those who are analytically minded or skeptical of “soft” practices.
Ethical and Compassionate Use of Technology:
For this future to be truly wellness-oriented, the technology itself must be designed with a compassionate ethos. This means:
Data as Feedback, Not Judgment: Metrics should be presented as neutral information to guide self-care, not as scores to gamify or triggers for shame.
Focus on Trends, Not Moments: Compassionate wellness looks at patterns over time, understanding that a single “bad” night of sleep or a high-stress day is not a failure but a point in a larger, human narrative.
Empowering User Agency: The goal is to help users listen to their own bodies and wisdom more deeply, not to outsource health decisions to an algorithm.
This human-centric approach to tech is at the core of forward-thinking wellness companies. The story behind Oxyzen, for instance, is rooted in the vision of creating tools that foster deeper connection to oneself, not just more data for data’s sake. It’s about providing a mirror that reflects not just your physiology, but the possibility of a kinder relationship with it.
The Broader Impact:
On a societal scale, this integration points toward a new paradigm of health. A healthcare system informed by compassion science and supported by personalized data could shift from merely treating disease to actively cultivating well-being. It could help validate mind-body practices for a wider audience and reduce the stigma around mental and emotional health.
The journey of self-compassion, therefore, is not a solitary retreat from the world. It is a foundational practice for engaging with the world—and with the technology that mediates it—in a wiser, kinder, and more resilient way. It ensures that as we advance, we do not lose sight of the most important metric of all: the quality of our humanity.
Conclusion of This Portion: Your Invitation to Begin
We have traversed a considerable landscape—from deconstructing the physiology of stress and the inner critic, to building the practical skills of mindfulness, self-kindness, and common humanity. We’ve explored how to apply this method to work, relationships, and specific life challenges, and how to sustain it through rituals and a compassionate mindset. We’ve even looked ahead to how this inner work synergizes with the outer tools of modern wellness.
The core truth that underpins every section is this: Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of every other experience in your life. When that relationship is rooted in criticism and conditional worth, your world feels threatening, exhausting, and scarce. When it is rooted in compassion and inherent worth, your world—even with all its very real challenges—feels more manageable, connected, and abundant.
You now hold a robust map. But a map is not the territory. The territory is your own lived experience, moment by moment. The real work begins not in perfect understanding, but in imperfect practice.
Your First Step:
Don’t try to overhaul your entire inner dialogue today. That is the voice of the perfectionist critic, disguised as ambition. Start tiny.
Choose one micro-practice from this guide. Perhaps it’s the “Name it to Tame it” technique when you feel stressed. Perhaps it’s placing a hand on your heart once today when you notice self-judgment.
Commit to it for just three days. Notice what happens, without demanding dramatic change.
Be infinitely compassionate with your forgetfulness. Each time you remember to practice, you have already succeeded.
This method is not about adding another “should” to your list. It is about gently removing the burden of the “shoulds” you already carry. It is the ultimate act of rebellion in a culture that prizes relentless self-improvement: the choice to treat yourself not as a project to be fixed, but as a person to be cherished.
The path of self-compassion is a homecoming. It is the journey back to the simple, profound truth that you, in this moment—flawed, struggling, magnificent—are enough. And from that place of enoughness, you can meet your life, your stress, and your world with a kindness that changes everything.
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